A Comparison of Models for Change, Healing, and Longevity as a Woman
Sitting at the conference table light-headed, heart-racing, and palms sweating - an overwhelm of anger, embarrassment, and disempowerment coursing uncontrollably through her mind and body. "Here we go again with my ideas being validated by the board of directors as they are shared second-hand from the mouth of a male counterpart. WHY?!? It seems the only course of action left is to take down the men..."
I can recall many moments of soul-crushing embarrassment as my power was stripped away from me behind closed doors where I was defenseless and no one else would or could stand up for me. With years of experience in stress management and leadership development, personally and professionally these memories surfaced to haunt me until recently. An important note here is that I quit experiencing this kind of treatment and dissolved the traumatic nostalgia when I began to differentiate between feminism and womanhood on a path to personal empowerment.
Images and quotes of girl power and feminism come to mind when I think of my initial opportunities and training in leadership. The underlying theme seemed to be that men were the opposition - a gross generalization that all all males contribute to the patriarchy that suppresses and puts women down and out throughout the ages and around the globe. This competitive culture of winner and loser used to resonate with me when it seemed as though growth and success was purely about how much better I could be in a certain role than any male counterpart.
On the contrary, from beguines and in biocognition, I study, practice, and advocate womanhood; an ancient, archetypal wisdom and power lying deep in a reservoir within every woman. By tapping into these reserves, everything in my world has changed. Fewer disagreements and power struggles. Improved general wellness. Increased competence, valuation, and relationships. Consistency of my internal joy, excellence, and courage. The key to accessing this profound source? Agency. Dr. Mario Martinez teaches how to de-masculinize women in application to life and vocation by accepting and applying the greatness with which we are born.
Here are some of my favorite and most profound takeaways of womanhood v. feminism:
Woman is a system in and of herself that requires reformation and revitalization of essence.
Every system (i.e. human, plant, organization, concept) is built on an ancient foundation that must be honored and nurtured during its evolution from survival and safety to meaning and purpose. What are the roots of your womanhood and how do you develop beyond?
A system cannot sustain change when it is imposed through divisive manipulation instead of complicit action.
Healthy, long-term change comes from the embodiment of archetypal antidotes, identified in Biocognitive theory as honor, loyalty, and commitment.
Trauma embodied by ancestors long before and epigenetically transferred to us can be addressed and eliminated ONLY by using the right tool, archetype, and context.
By going into stillness and quietude, the mindbody present us with unmet needs in addition to the solution that will strengthen and revive.
Longevity & Wellbeing
Women have always been healers, creatives, and strategists to improve the world - today we hold the same responsibility to make our earthly home a better place when we leave than when we first arrived.
The state of our being is determined by the vigor of our wellness. Personal components of wellness must be balanced and in check to trigger good health. Without health, what do we miss in this lifetime?
We are shifting into an era of wisdom - this requires deciphering between quality information and misinformation from charlatans for application and meaningful growth.
Questions to challenge the depth of reflection and application...
What misinformation has tricked and harmed you on your journey of development?
How did it make you feel?
Does the experience still haunt or trap you?
What is the significance and meaning of this part of your journey?
How will you advocate for healthy and wholesome healing with girls and women in the process of healing and growing?